5 Ways to Show Respect for Your ChildAren't these awesome tips? When you read things like this I tell myself that if I just stop and think about it parenting can be so easy, but it's not! You can sing up for the Proactive Parenting newsletter HERE.
Remember, we can’t expect kids to respect us unless we also show respect to them.
Try these 5 ways to show respect, develop their capability and avoid power struggles:
1. Don’t ask too many questions.
Instead of “How was school today?” “Was the science test hard?” “What did you have for lunch?” Try: “Welcome home. I’m SO glad to see you!”
2. Don’t rush to answer questions.
Try: “That’s an interesting question. What do you think?”
3. Let your child own his/her own body.
Refrain from brushing her hair out of her eyes, tucking in his shirt, etc. Kids view this as fussing over them and an invasion of their physical privacy.
4. Let your child answer for herself/himself!
Try: “Jack can tell you. He’s the one who knows.” Or, for an older child, just be silent and don’t answer. The awkward silence will encourage your child to speak up.
5. Show respect for your child’s eventual “readiness.”
Try: “I’m not concerned. When you’re ready, you’ll use the potty.” (This also removes the power struggle. There’s no need to fight you because you are giving the him the power to decide.) Or try: “When you decide to, you’ll get into the water.”
Kids are accustomed to parents communicating with a lot of ordering, correcting and directing. These 5 strategies will show your kids that you respect them, and will lead to greater capability and autonomy with fewer power struggles.
And remember I took a challenge from Sharron a few weeks ago?! Well, it's been working. Hubs has been a bit more "motherly" and I don't think he's sent the girls to the corner as much as he use to. Today when he left to work Eli was wanting one last hug and usually he'd just say, "Go with mama!" Today he came and said, "Aww, I love you mamas!" and gave her one last hug (and me an extra kiss!). I'm seeing a bit more the man I married 7 years ago!